Create your own path.

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I haven’t written much on here lately.

But tonight, I really felt the need to write this.

I’m 25. I dropped out of college. I don’t have a degree. I don’t have a high paying salary job. I’m not engaged, no husband, no kids. I’m single. I don’t own my own property. No white picket fences.

With those few lines, I can already see the rolling eyes and the shaking heads. I can hear the judgments and the misconceptions. And the you-should-bes and the why-can’t-yous.

I know a handful of people who don’t agree with this kind of life. Some are family, unfortunately. And it happens, most people won’t agree if you choose to stray of the well-paved path. Many people were raised that way, many experienced their lives that way. They were raised on the idea that in order for you to truly have a good life is if you were financially stable, if you have a degree, a good job and if you have a spouse and kids. And a nice house with the white picket fence. And the brand new car. Truthfully, there’s nothing wrong with that. That sounds like a nice life for most people.

But it’s not a life for me. And a lot of people are starting to realize that it’s not a life for them either.

Before I go any further I want you to know that I am not promoting an unconventional way of living to everyone or that it is for everyone. Or that I look down on people who live those typical lives. Because I’m not. If you’re genuinely happy with whatever life you have right now, then who am I to say anything against it?

But what I am promoting is living a life that you have always wanted. And what I’m not okay with is people telling others how to live their lives as if it were their own and as if their way of living is the only way there is. Take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Is it fair? Is what you’re doing fair to others? Pinpointing everything that’s wrong with their lives? Creating a timeline for them and making sure that they hit that milestone otherwise they’re considered a failure, not good enough, not fit for your approval? Again, is it fair? Why should they abide by your words? Even if you’re their parent why won’t you just let them follow a dream? Wouldn’t you want your child, loved one, brother, sister, spouse to be happy? No matter what?

I have my dreams. And I know I want to keep traveling and exploring. To tell stories through photography and writing. And I want to help and inspire as many people as I can. That’s all I really need. No matter how long it takes I will make my dreams come into fruition because it won’t happen overnight. It’s going to be hard and I might have to pummel my way through it. But I’m willing to work my way through hell if I have to. I have clear vision. A path that I have created for myself. A path that not many will approve of, but I wasn’t born into this world for my life to be approved by others. I was born to live my purpose. And this path I have chosen is my purpose, no matter what anyone says.

It’s my life. Nobody should have a say in it, except for the person who is living it.

Albert Einstein once said, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

If you’re living that typical life and you’re not happy, that’s when you should re-think your definition of living. That’s when you should do something about your life. Create your path, one that will lead you to the life you want. Not the life that others want. Answer these questions.

Are you happy? Are you living a life you want? Are you staying true to your purpose? Are you following your bliss?

If the answer is yes. Keep going. If it’s no, pick a dream. Something you’ve always wanted to do. Create your path. And work as hard as you possibly can to get it no matter what anyone else says. Keep going. And you’ll find out why you were meant to create this path for yourself. Maybe you’ll travel the world, maybe you’ll create your own successful company, maybe you’ll write a best-selling book, maybe you’ll save thousands of lives, maybe you’ll build your own business in a new country, maybe you’ll change the world through your talent and passion. Maybe just maybe, you’ll live the life you’ve always wanted…

Not because you followed the path that was paved for you, but because you created your own.


Don’t let your dreams be dreams.

43 thoughts on “Create your own path.

  1. Hey. I have been a regular visitor t your blog and this is a wonderful article.
    I can so relate to your thoughts in this one. My group of friends from college, (who also somewhat believe in this,) I am sure would love to read this as well. Will be sharing with them soon! 🙂
    Keep it up. Keep inspiring.


  2. I’ve been reading your blog for a while now and I can really relate to all of your words and everything you’ve said. I salute you for beating the norms. You’re one of my inspirations. I also wish to live where I would be happy and fulfilled, but still gathering the courage to take the first step. Thank you so much for the inspiration, hope I can share with you my thoughts further. God Bless you more..

  3. Have you read “The Art of Non-Conformity”? It’s an awesome book by Chris Guillebeau and I think you might enjoy it. 🙂

    Looking forward to your Kickstarter project Steph. And as always, thank you for this post. Know that there are people going to be more people who will support you as you pave your own path 🙂

  4. I love what you’ve written here and you are right…we should create our own path and live the life we’ve always wanted and be passionate on what we want in life. Thanks, I can relate to you and tothe message you want to imply.

  5. i am a nursing graduate, unfortunately i did not passed the licensure exam, now i am a part time travel and a novice surfer. my parents and some of my relatives somehow don’t agree on the life that i have right now, i may not have enough but somehow i feel contented.

    • I don’t see the reason why we should do anything else other than what we love doing.. what makes us genuinely happy. And I’m glad you’re doing just that.

      Thank you for reading!

  6. Goosebumps again ! Everytime i read your posts i feel like leaving everything right here and right now and go on the trip i have been waiting to go on forever. And i hope and i am pretty much sure one day i will do that. Thanks for all the inspirational posts.


  7. I am a recent high school graduate and everything you mentioned in this post has been bothering me so much lately. Just like you said about the timelines being made, well I have had over a dozen made for me and none made by myself. This is probably the most inspired I have ever felt in a very long time. It is so reassuring to know that there are others that support the unconventional route and are happy driving down it.
    I thought that you would like to know that this blog post has now made my decision for my future so much clearer 🙂

  8. thank you for the reminder…i do judge myself harshly most of the time….
    i saw some of your photos and abridged posts about Philippine destinations in a travel mag called Trip…i think they edited your posts in a way that made it lose most of your Satori wit so it read soul-less…sorry, but that’s how it felt for me…i hope you know about this and they asked for you permission?

    • Hi Irma!

      Yes I wrote an article for them, I did read it after they edited and was a little disappointed that it wasn’t the same. I wished they kept my words but I should have known since I have no control over their editing.

      I do appreciate your opinion! And I will make sure that next time I get approached by a magazine, they will stay true to the Satori in my words.

      Have a beautiful day love!

      P.S. Where did you get a copy?

      • saw the mag in a coffee shop…i can go back and steal it for you, hahaha.

        i used to write for global mags franchised here but i stopped because of the way their edit make me sound…i hate seeing my name attributed to an altered almost unidentifiable me.

        • Hahah! It’s okay I asked them for a copy. But maybe if you go back soon you can take a picture of my spread and email it to me? 🙂

          Yea I definitely know what you mean. This is my first time writing for an actual magazine print. Although the opportunity and compensation is great, I should keep in mind that it stays true to the essence of my work.

          • you got compensated well? darn, i never was…i used to opt to get gift cheques from their advertisers so i can get compensated earlier and more….writers are mostly always under-appreciated 😦

            if the mag is still there i will surely do that for you.

            keep writing please…you do wonders for my soul ❤

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  11. Is it not harsh to say nobody has a say in your life ? It sounded very right at the beginning, but when I gave it some thought, I could only think about my parents… I know most parents wish their children to have a happy life, so they will agree with most things you want or do, only because it will ‘make you happy’. Although, there are some issues, depending on one’s parents, that they will not agree with. However, as we and parents know, they cannot force things upon us, so we will most likely do things anyway… But, what if parents disagree with things, even after we have done them or are doing them, doesn’t it hurt when your parents are hurt by your actions ? I like your piece a lot, and I am one of those who believes in this way of thinking. Nevertheless, the role of parents is still something sensitive to me. Everybody hates fighting with ones parents. How are you’re parents in all this? I assume they see you’re happy, which makes them happy ? Greetings from Holland

  12. Wow this post really spoke to me. I’ve just reached my early 30s and I’m starting my life all over again and although those around me don’t understand I think the most important thing is to be happy so I keep following my dreams for it makes me feel so alive. Lots of love, Lisa 🙂

  13. This was a really good read… I have only just discovered you and wow to following your passion and talent way to go… I believe in it completely i have always said we must trully enjoy whatever it is we do in life… and yes we all have different journeys, sometimes parents can be a little pressuring but most important for them is we are happy 🙂 .. and i dont think its anything bad that you are a college dropout etc etc all those things dont matter.. what matters in life is the journey towards the destination and eventually the destination :).. People these days have too many opinions before they look at their lives and we should not judge as we all bring with us different life experiences 🙂 I also just researched the word Satori and just knew what it meant wow thats going to be my new word now 🙂 Thank you for continuing to inspire us and keep positive and keep going! Am sure you will manage to pursue ur passions.. Cheers!

  14. I too have family members who don’t understand a “unconventional” lifestyle. They think it’s a waste of money, that I’m throwing away the best years of my life… It used to break my heart to get criticism for the way I live, but now I just feel bad that they will never understand the sense of freedom, joy of living and waking up in new places or any of the other amazing things that go along with living this life! Thanks for the words of encouragement and keep traveling!

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